“Why did you quit your job?” Abby stopped. On the outside, she was a successful attorney with an enviable marriage. On the inside, perfectionism, depression, and alcohol use quietly crippled her life. After an affair with a coworker, Abby lost her job. Her husband left, demanding she get some help before he’d consider reconciliation. In addition to coming to see me for therapy, Abby returned to her former church and joined a women’s Bible study where she met the group leader–