Earlier this month, I promised a tool to help you assess your community. Here it is! In the last conversation, we talked about what type of information goes in which drawer of trust. Now, we will talk about where people belong, and which drawer(s) they have access to. Assessing your connections is an important step in learning how to give people access to your personal life. We need to first know who is in our life and how much we trust them, before we can decide which inform

“Why did you quit your job?” Abby stopped. On the outside, she was a successful attorney with an enviable marriage. On the inside, perfectionism, depression, and alcohol use quietly crippled her life. After an affair with a coworker, Abby lost her job. Her husband left, demanding she get some help before he’d consider reconciliation. In addition to coming to see me for therapy, Abby returned to her former church and joined a women’s Bible study where she met the group leader–